Friendship.

When I was younger, the number of friends that I had mattered because we needed to have enough of us to play a football game or shoot hoops. We typically hung out in groups of 10-12 of us. These friends were friends for the time and I always seemed to gage my self-worth based on the number of friends that I had. Different experiences through the years showed me that some of the people who I thought were my friends may not have always considered me the same. 


My mom has 3-4 friends, but she is friendly with everyone she encounters. My brothers, sister and I used to kind of make fun of her for not having any friends. She would always tell me that she would rather have friends that she could count on one hand who she knew would be there for her not matter what instead of having countless friends who would show up only if it was convenient for them. 


As I started college, I worried that I may not have enough friends. What I found was that I can have many acquaintances while only having a few true friends. People who you see weekly in class and are friendly with do not necessarily need to make the list of hanging out with on weekends. We can be classmates and leave it at just that. The reality that I have found through the years is that the number of friends I have does not matter. The quality of the few true friends that I have is much more important that the quantity. I have 2 close friends who I grew up with. They have been there alongside me through grade school and high school. Since college started, we may not talk or see each other as much, but when something in my life happens that matters, they are there to support me. As life moves forward, I've realized that it's not the quantity of a friendship that matters most. What I've come to find is that it's actually the quality of a friendship that can make all the difference. 


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